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The fact you mention 'destroying' and strands of web suggests Red Spider mite to me!
See here; http://www.thegardenersalmanac.co.uk/Data/Red%20Spider%20mite/Red%20Spider%20mite.htm
But the flying away and returning aspect suggests aphids.
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What colour are the flies?